I wasn't thinking that gay men *as gay men* oppressed women. I was thinking that gay men *as men* almost certainly have the same attitudes and beliefs about women that straight men do, and those attitudes and beliefs are supported by the oppressive mechanisms of the sexist society we live in. In a conversation with a gay man, a woman cannot assume that she is not going to be facing the same sexism, male entitlement, belittlement and dismissal that might happen if she was talking to a straight man. Does it make a difference that these attitudes are in the person of someone who is also disenfranchised in our society? Yes, of course it does. But I don't think that means it's not a factor at all.

(This is a general statement and not a statement about Torchwood. I don't know the state of play in the TW fandom any more, as I've not been participating in it for months.)