I know you've just gone through an exhausting discussion about all this and appreciate you took the time to comment, so I'm a bit reluctant to even say this, but you'd have to go back as far as Ancient Greece to find a time where you could maybe say that women have been oppressed by gay men as a group, and even then it'd be a problematic claim, because the whole concept of sexual orientation/behaviour was so completely different and gay men who didn't play by the accepted rules were oppressed, too... I know this isn't what you meant to say, but it could be misread.

And I think the problem was from the beginning that fandom filed Jack/Ianto under slash and expected it to play by these rules, when in the end TW is SF/drama that has gay characters...

I suspect RTD pretty much meant it, minus the historical baggage he probably wasn't aware of, but since I don't see a lot of sexism in his writing, and given the circumstances and provocation at the time, I have to say it never bothered me all that much. If it did, I'd probably have to throw out a whole shelf of Thomas Mann books first. *rueful smile*