but I try to remember that this is an American show, and a Fox show to boot, so it was never like I expected it to go to the man kissing, or even the girl kissing.

I know, I know. :) I blame Torchwood. And it's just such a pity, because the Dollhouse premise would be ideal to explore all kinds of questions about gender and sexuality.

As for the second point - you're probably right there. It really was more of en emotional reaction that analysis; sometimes I think I'm just not watching DH carefully enough to say something intelligent about that show...