A discouragingly short comment to say yes, that's almost exactly how I see it too. I think anyone expecting Jack to have a normal relationship in an OTP, monogamous, 'lets grow old together', 'you're the only one for me' way is going to be disappointed. He just isn't that way - and as you say, with the immortality he can't even learn to be that way.
More to the point, he wouldn't have been that way with Gwen - and in fact canonically he *wasn't* that way with Gwen. He hates losing his people, and to a certain extent he has now lost Gwen. We can expect a level of irrational behaviour from him, because we know from Owen that he doesn't take losing people well. (Possibly related to the incidents in his childhood.)
But I don't think that in any way means that he doesn't care for Ianto. It means that he hasn't been threatened with losing Ianto. (Was I the only one to notice that in Meat it was the threat to Ianto that brought Jack out of hiding?) There has been, this series, much more *tenderness* between Jack and Ianto than in series #1. That scene in Adam? He is by far gentler with Ianto than with anyone else.
And I think that we also need to remember that men don't talk about emotions. The fact that we get both Jack and Ianto being willing to talk about the fact that they're having sex is *much* more likely than the idea that either of them would be willing to talk about how they *feel* about each other! That's just typical masculine conversation patterns. They'd both be far less embarrassed by 'we were shagging all night' than by 'I really love him.'
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More to the point, he wouldn't have been that way with Gwen - and in fact canonically he *wasn't* that way with Gwen. He hates losing his people, and to a certain extent he has now lost Gwen. We can expect a level of irrational behaviour from him, because we know from Owen that he doesn't take losing people well. (Possibly related to the incidents in his childhood.)
But I don't think that in any way means that he doesn't care for Ianto. It means that he hasn't been threatened with losing Ianto. (Was I the only one to notice that in Meat it was the threat to Ianto that brought Jack out of hiding?) There has been, this series, much more *tenderness* between Jack and Ianto than in series #1. That scene in Adam? He is by far gentler with Ianto than with anyone else.
And I think that we also need to remember that men don't talk about emotions. The fact that we get both Jack and Ianto being willing to talk about the fact that they're having sex is *much* more likely than the idea that either of them would be willing to talk about how they *feel* about each other! That's just typical masculine conversation patterns. They'd both be far less embarrassed by 'we were shagging all night' than by 'I really love him.'